Love is a “We” Sport

Here is something to think about. If we are playing ball, let's say its football: and I throw the ball to you. Yes you catch it but then you lay it down on the ground next to you instead of throwing it back to me. SO I think maybe he doesn't get it? SO I run and pick up the ball. Run back to my spot, and proceed to start the game over, but this time when I throw the ball you don't even bother to catch it. So I decide to quit and walk away, but you scream. No, wait, let's try again. So stupid me; I go pick up the ball to try it one more time. (Not that I said stupid.) Again you totally disregard the fact that I threw the ball at you and you let it hit the ground.

This time pissed the hell off I began to leave. Yet again you protest No, wait! I Understand I get now. You're trying to play ball. See I told you I heard you. SO here I go again with my overly optimistic, thinking that maybe this time you really do understand the concept of the game that I am playing with you. This time when I throw the ball, you dodge it. I mean you duck completely out of the way like I threw a water balloon full of pissy water. So tell me does that make any damn since to you? Because it damn sure doesn't make any since to me.

This, my family is what I call playing with yourself; and I don't mean in the good way.

In this thing we call life; there are two types of people. The ones who make it happen, and the ones who watch it happen. There is no in between, either your doing or watching. Either you're driving the bus or you're sitting at the bus stop watching that bitch go by you. Look, time is the only thing that you cannot get back. So if you're privileged enough to find someone who even wants to share their time with you and you are intrigued enough to want to know them. Why wouldn't you do what it takes to make this a full contact sport? Love is not a game of flag football. It is a full on knock the shit out of you, I can't breathe, oh my goodness I think I son that you are in this game with is doing his damnedest to protect you, or vice versa. I

I mean really! If you're only playing on defense, then you might as well throw in the towel, and call it a wrap. You can't possibly be looking to win? You're actions imply to me that you're intentions are just to survive. From the toughest TOP to the sweetest Bottom, man or woman, we're all looking for the same thing! Somebody to play this game call love with us. Love is not an accident it is a damn choice. And if you choice to love somebody then by all means you better be willing to roll around in the mud, throw some hard punches, and pick up some teeth. Because the battle field of love is not nice to anyone. But anything worth having is worth fighting for. I believe good love is worth having and I will fight for it all day, all night, for the rest of my life. But I absolutely refuse to fight alone.

People now a day's treat relationships like their glasses of water. They take sips from it then leave it on the counter for hours, for days. Then they come back to it and 3excpect it to have the same refreshing cool taste to it had when they'd first poured it. When it tastes stale and bitter instead they wonder why. Bitch because you ignored it and left it sitting there like it wasn't important to you.

You can't expect anybody to stay around and love you while your disregard their feelings, ignore them, and play around with their emotions while you play the field with other people. That's not how it works. When you decide to make someone a priority in your life, that's what you need to do make them a priority. Don't pretend to be interested just to keep them interested in you, all the while you're looking for something else better. Or let's be honest just blatantly trying to keep them busy so that they don't find someone else that's not love, that isn't even a relationship that is hostage situation. You have turned into a terrorist, walking like a suicide bomber, because you don't want anybody else to have me. So you're holding me hostage from someone who could easily treat me, love me, fuck me, and talk to me so much better than you can, could, or ever would!

You Selfish Bastard. You want all privileges and perks of being my man, but you don't actually want to delve deep into the actual responsib9ilities of the job. Needless to say you want a pay check; you just don't want to do any work. Well guess what you lazy sun of a bitch; find someone else who doesn't mind you wasting their time, because I am not the one. Only a fool would allow someone to take up space in their hearts and lives, and the person doesn't even keep them on their mind a fraction of the day. Understand this it is so wrong to portray yourself as what I need, but give me everything that I could do without. Don't be a burden upon someone else's life. If you say you love someone, or even like someone; love/like them enough to put in some work or step aside so that someone else with better intentions can. No one wants to be in love alone. They shouldn't have to be, because that isn't how love was set up. You need two players to play, if one doesn't show up. Game Over!!!

 

Step Up or Step Off ! I Got Shit to Do!

My new mantra when it comes to men, friends, family, people in General; Step Up or Step Off. Is in my opinion the key to my success future success? I recently adopted this new way of thinking within the last month, as I have begun to revamp my personal, professional, and mental state of mind. It may seem a little rude, or a harsh phrase to utter to someone, but honestly it is something that should be said and screamed often. Simply because often times when we "ambitious people" (I am speaking of ambition a lot lately) get ready to tackle the hills and valleys of success we often have people who want to be a part of our success or a part of our lives. And Often times these people are either impeding on our success (slowing us down, or trying to halt progression) or their just along for a free ride. Sometimes these people [want us to succeed but have nothing to contribute, and there for they are just lumps sitting on our swiftly moving log. Well these are the exact people that need such a reality check.

"Step Up or Step Off!"

As I began my ascension into a more successful, empowered, ambitious me I started to see that some of the people in my immediate circle weren't of any use to me. Hell, most of them weren't of any use to themselves and the only reasons they were really in my life was because I was attached to them for sentimental reasons. But sentiment does not equate to progress. Sometimes we hold on to people so tight and we use love as an excuse to ignore who they really are; Manipulative, spoiled, arrogant, self righteous, procrastinating, hypocritical, un-driven, unsuccessful people. I am speaking of those people that have no purpose. We all know someone like this and these are the exact people we love, and want to advance with us, but they are the people who don't want to do anything for themselves. They are the people skating through life constantly making excuses for one thing or another. "I don't have a job because.." "I was fired because…" "I live at home with my mother because…" and "I smoke because.." Bitch please! Give me no excuses, only solutions. People with excuses are people who don't really want to do anything.

Lots of times because people have been our friends for so long we ourselves even begin to make excuses for their lazy behavior. when we know that the truth is just that: their lazy. SO if they're too lazy to care about their own situation, life, career, stomachs, living situation. Why in the hell should it be of any concern to us.

What kill's me is the people who latch on to other people, ambitious successful people and BLOCK! Cock block, blessing block, just damn block. They are the people who can see your success clearly, and in its entirety. Yet they know they are not good enough for you or willing to put in the time/effort it would take to be what you need, desire, want. So they continue to hold on to you because they figure that as long as their around they might as well get what they can get from you. Or at least keep someone else from coming into your life that is going to put in the work, give you the resources, time, energy (good energy) to supply you with what you need to be successful. Ain't that a blimp?

But get this: That is your fault! It was my fault too. People will only do to you, what you allow them to do to you. And we, more often than not, allow people to do some awful stuff to us, in the name of sentiment. Well fuck that I ain't having it no more and neither should any of you. My family, my friends, my loves: Life is too short, it's already filled with pain and hard times. Why make your life any harder than it already has to be just because you love somebody. Your Friends, your family, you boyfriend or girlfriend are the exact people who can hurt you more than anybody. Why, you ask? Because they are the ones closest to you. So they have the ability to do more damage because you care about them.

Now understand this I ain't saying to hell with all your friends. What I am saying; is that we should all take a look at our circle of influence, hell, take a total 180 degree look at your life, and evaluate where you are as opposed to where you would like to be. Then look at that circle of influence and evaluate where those people are and what they have accomplished and whether or not their energy is good energy for you? If they are people who procrastinate all the damn, sit around on the couch eating bags of chips, if they are slackers who hardly do any work or are completely unmotivated, and smoking weed all day every day. As opposed to bettering themselves in school, or working toward a career, or trying to get a better pay raise at work, hell if they are just going to the gym every day to get in better shape. But they need to be putting out some kind of positivity in the air. People, who have nothing to contribute to life, are just sucking the life out of you with their nonchalant way of living.

Boo, that energy that you need. But if you're sitting on the couch with your friend and yawl are supposed to be going somewhere, but you got to catch the bus to get there. But every time it comes time to get up to go catch that bus, and your friend "hollers lets catch the next bus". So you sit back down on the couch with him so that by the end of the day you have missed every bus and the sun has set and you're still sitting on the couch waiting on him/her to move. Well baby that was a waste of time! Hell typing it was a waist of my time.

It is alright to love somebody but don't get loving a person confused. You have to love people at a distance, because the people you love aren't always the ones who love you. But then again maybe they do, they just don't love themselves enough to do better in life. Not your problem or mine. Us motivated people; who have dreams, goals, and ambitions don't have time to dilly dally on a fucking couch, at home all day, in the porn store, fucking every piece of dick, ass, pun that looks cute. People like us got shit to do. SO when I say: Step Up or Step Off! Honey it is because I got shit to do. And you do to.

You have my permission to use it whenever the situation calls for it.

Ta Ta for Now

Rafael Solece

Going Through The Process

By; Rafael Solece

This weekend I did the first of many photo shoots for the promotion of my production company Masquerade. I couldn't begin to tell you the leaps and bounds that My Diva and I went through to make it a success. I can tell you that I do believe that these are going to be some fabulously awesome promotional pictures for me, and I am positive that my head shots will exceed my expectations. The photographer made me feel very comfortable, and extremely professional. The Diva did the hell out of my makeup. She also styled my clothes for the shoot. All in all; my first shoot I feel was a success and I am looking forward to the end result.

This whole process of finding a photographer, conceptualizing, sketching, hiring a stylist, finding a makeup artist, searching for clothes and props for the shoot has definitely been a learning experience. I love that part of the process; the learning part. Every time I come to something new that must be done, and I go through the procedure I always feel so accomplished. Probably because these are all things that I just couldn't have ever learned sitting around in any bodies classroom. The skills that I have acquired are only skill sets that I could have picked up through experience; through my own experience.

I remember when I first started trying to get my book published; I was so disappointed that I couldn't find a publishing firm to pick me up. I knew that my story was good, and I was mad that no one else could see the potential in my manuscript. Honestly though I am so glade I took this route of self publication. Because it has given me an awesome business sense, and I have learned so much, and as a writer, as a producer, as an actor a business sensibility is something that I definitely will need throughout my career.

I know this journey is a labor: but it is my labor of love. I just wanted to share that with yawl. Please follow your dreams my Darlings; much love until next time.