A couple of weeks back I met this guy, or first date was a double date with a couple friend of his. I don't know how but during dinner some how we ended up having a discussion about Sex in the City. This was not some kinky conversation about sex in public restrooms and parks. You know we were talking about that television show about the four women living in New York City, trying to balance out their love lives.
I said then, as I have always said, that I identified myself mostly with the main character Carrie. I think I was identifying with her because I was drawing on the obvious similarities between us. You know; My being a writer, single, and wanting, or rather feeling that needed to be loved, and searching in all the wrong places for love and being tangled up in a mess of men. Of course I think lots of people want to most be a Carrie because we’re all sort of looking for love in all the wrong places, and hoping that like Carrie one day we will find our Mister Big.
Of course the gentle men that I was discussing this with made some sterling points that I had not yet considered. I mean to say he broke the characters down in a way that I would have never thought of. Of course all of this was said after he told me that there was no way that I could be a Carrie. When he said this I felt sort of offended. Somehow it felt wrong that he would say such a thing to me. As if to say I am not glamorous enough to be a “Carrie” but then he went on to explain why he would make such a blatantly rude assessment.
He said and I quote: you can’t possibly be a Carrie because unlike Carrie, you know what you deserve and what your worthy of. You know who you are…
Shut up, Right! He said that Carrie was the most confused character on that show. She spent the entire show summing up her self worth in every man she met. And the one man that she loved, BIG, she could never truly be with him because in her mind she always saw her self unworthy to be with him because of their station. Yet the one man that truly loved her for who she was, Aden, she treated him badly, dogged him out, and disrespected him. Carrie was never as confident as most people liked to think she was. She was mousy, unsecure, and she didn’t know her self worth. I know! I was like “WOW” my damn self.
The gentlemen went on to say that he personally like Samantha. Yes Samantha was a whore, vulgar, and brazen. But she knew her value. She knew what she was worth. And when a relationship was over she never cried about it or got upset about it because she understood that, that relationship, sexual situation, escapade was just that apart of her past. It didn’t make or break her and therefore it was alright to move on because she was strong enough to handle what was coming next.
He also made another great point about Charlotte, the mousy, society bitch, that I honestly wasn’t very found of. He said that she was a lot like Samantha too, in that as prissy, and prudish as she was she understood who she was, and she knew her own self worth. She knew that she was spoiled and that she was beautiful and that she deserved a privileged life style, and she understood that any man that couldn’t give her those things wasn’t worth being her man.
As he explained these things to me I started to see the women of Sex in the City in a completely different light. I started to see them not for their life styles, their clothes, and experiences but I started to see them for their attitudes towards the men they loved and were involved with and I started to see in those different relationships their attitudes toward themselves.
But then he said something that brought it all home to me. He said the reason that I don’t see you as a Carrie is because unlike Carrie you are a man that knows your self worth. You know what you deserve in every aspect of your life and he told me that I unlike Carrie, but so much so like Samantha, demand and expect life to give me what I deserve.
All I could do was smile sweetly and knod my head in accordance with his assessment. Needless to say, if you ask me which character from Sex in the City I most identify with now, I'll quickly to tell you Charlotte. You thought I was going to say Samantha didn’t you. Nope! I know I'm a spoiled little shit and I expect to be treated as such...Ever since that night when ever I am with me he spoils me. I think he trying to make a point.
Of course the gentle men that I was discussing this with made some sterling points that I had not yet considered. I mean to say he broke the characters down in a way that I would have never thought of. Of course all of this was said after he told me that there was no way that I could be a Carrie. When he said this I felt sort of offended. Somehow it felt wrong that he would say such a thing to me. As if to say I am not glamorous enough to be a “Carrie” but then he went on to explain why he would make such a blatantly rude assessment.
He said and I quote: you can’t possibly be a Carrie because unlike Carrie, you know what you deserve and what your worthy of. You know who you are…
Shut up, Right! He said that Carrie was the most confused character on that show. She spent the entire show summing up her self worth in every man she met. And the one man that she loved, BIG, she could never truly be with him because in her mind she always saw her self unworthy to be with him because of their station. Yet the one man that truly loved her for who she was, Aden, she treated him badly, dogged him out, and disrespected him. Carrie was never as confident as most people liked to think she was. She was mousy, unsecure, and she didn’t know her self worth. I know! I was like “WOW” my damn self.
The gentlemen went on to say that he personally like Samantha. Yes Samantha was a whore, vulgar, and brazen. But she knew her value. She knew what she was worth. And when a relationship was over she never cried about it or got upset about it because she understood that, that relationship, sexual situation, escapade was just that apart of her past. It didn’t make or break her and therefore it was alright to move on because she was strong enough to handle what was coming next.
He also made another great point about Charlotte, the mousy, society bitch, that I honestly wasn’t very found of. He said that she was a lot like Samantha too, in that as prissy, and prudish as she was she understood who she was, and she knew her own self worth. She knew that she was spoiled and that she was beautiful and that she deserved a privileged life style, and she understood that any man that couldn’t give her those things wasn’t worth being her man.
As he explained these things to me I started to see the women of Sex in the City in a completely different light. I started to see them not for their life styles, their clothes, and experiences but I started to see them for their attitudes towards the men they loved and were involved with and I started to see in those different relationships their attitudes toward themselves.
But then he said something that brought it all home to me. He said the reason that I don’t see you as a Carrie is because unlike Carrie you are a man that knows your self worth. You know what you deserve in every aspect of your life and he told me that I unlike Carrie, but so much so like Samantha, demand and expect life to give me what I deserve.
All I could do was smile sweetly and knod my head in accordance with his assessment. Needless to say, if you ask me which character from Sex in the City I most identify with now, I'll quickly to tell you Charlotte. You thought I was going to say Samantha didn’t you. Nope! I know I'm a spoiled little shit and I expect to be treated as such...Ever since that night when ever I am with me he spoils me. I think he trying to make a point.
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