PILLOW TALK...

 

by Rafael Solece

There is something to be said about sharing yourself with someone. GET YOUR MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER BOYS AND GIRLS! I am not talking about sex. I am talking about talking. More specifically I am talking about the act of sharing your most intimate thoughts and feelings with someone. Not just anyone, but someone special.

Granted that is one of the most uncomfortable feelings in the world. Telling someone, anyone, your secretes. Especially someone you are attracted to or someone you are dating or in a relationship with. It seems to me that where we seem to be able to tell our friends all of the gory details of our lives; our perverse sexual fantasies and our deepest insecurities, when it comes to sharing those things with the people who matter most we just don't have the nerve.

And that is kind of pathetic when you think about it.

I mean how in the world do we expect to cultivate long lasting relationships if we do not feel comfortable enough to go at it RAW!

That's what it feels like when you share yourself with someone. It feels like scrubbing all of your skin off. But you aren't really scrubbing all of your skin off. Just the top layer of skin. Just enough to expose a new layer of skin to the world and personally I think that is a good thing. Its called exfoliating. Your exfoliating all of those emotions. But I am saying it like it is easy. It is not an easy task to tell all your secretes to someone; not for me or anyone that I know.

It is hard to reveal yourself to people. To let people see who you really are: all you vulnerabilities, your insecurities, your hurt, and your fears. We hide those things from the world, from the people we like and/or love because we are scared they are going to use what we tell them against us. More often than not because someone we once loved before did just that. They took what we shared with them in confidence and shared it with the world as a way to hurt us.

But you can not let that experience keep you from sharing yourself with other people. You have to talk it out. Share that experience if need be. Use it as the foundation for more intimate conversation.

I believe that we as men and women are disconnected from each other. We are all so plugged in to the internet, our cell phones, ipads and tablets, that we are not paying enough attention or communicating effectively with one another. I think we need to take the time to really talk to the people we care about. Most of the all the people we call spouse, lover, boyfriend, husband, and/or wife.

My suggestion to you this beginning of the holiday season is, before “Black Friday” have an “Intimate Tuesday” with you mate. Go home and grab your man by the hand, take him into your bedroom, strip off all of your clothes, and climb into bed between the nice warm sheets, rest your head on their chest or their head on your chest and have a little pillow talk...